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Arbitrary obligation

Obligation makes sense when we have made a definitive commitment, especially when it involves other people: it helps to keep us accountable.

But if the commitment we made is only to ourselves, and the boundaries of that commitment are  things we made up in our head, obligation can backfire.

It makes us rigid when we should adapt.

And it keeps us from pivoting when we stumble upon a wiser path.

Committing to an arbitrary goal is a great tactic for leveling up. But if you discover the goal no longer makes sense, there is no reason to treat your earlier self-commitment as an obligation that’s been written in stone.